Until you have forgiven everyone who may have hurt or wronged you, you cannot be free or happy. And the essence of forgiveness is letting go of your story of blame.
Why is it that until you forgive, you can’t be happy? Because so long as you’re holding onto a grudge or resentment against someone, you’re in your ego, your small “self.” Your ego is still the master in your world, still has control of you, and as we’ve seen, the ego’s game—in its worst manifestation—is one of judgment and condemnation, of “I’m right and you’re wrong.”
There can be no real freedom or personal happiness so long as the ego has dominance in your life. It is just a fact that has to be acknowledged. Yet your ego is still there, still an expression of “you,” but now it is more the servant of your true being.
As Ramakrishna, the Indian saint said: “The ego makes a very poor master, but a very good servant.” Your ego—the “I,” the “me”—serves you by setting good personal boundaries, organizing your personal wants and needs, and establishing goals and making plans.
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